Have you ever found it difficult to keep moving forward because you were afraid of failure? Most people have! Let’s face it; no one likes to fail. None of us likes to feel that we’re ineffective, weak, or lacking in any way, and that’s exactly how failure makes us feel.
Here’s a little secret that may help you to keep moving forward and to let go of the fear of failure. Did you know that failure doesn’t exist – until YOU say it does. In the dictionary, failure has several definitions:
1. A failing to do or perform 2. A state of inability to perform a normal function adequately 3. A fracturing or giving way under stress
4. Lack of success
Look carefully at those definitions and you’ll probably realize that there is something about failure that you have complete control over.
Failure is only a type of perception
If you believe you have failed, then you have. If you believe you don’t have the ability to succeed, then you don’t. If you believe you can’t handle the pressure of achieving your goals, you can’t. If you believe you’re not successful, you aren’t. Failure only exists in your own mind! The moment you decide to give up or stop working toward your goals, failure is born.
But what if you never do that? What if you just keep moving forward toward your goals, one step at a time for as long as it takes? There’s no failure then, is there?
This insight should be very encouraging if you’ve been working toward goals and have not yet seen positive results. If you keep moving forward and continue making whatever adjustment are needed, how can you fail?
3 tips to help you keep moving forward
1) Never give yourself an out. Most people give themselves an out without even realizing it. It’s called a fade out! They are willing to work hard on achieving their goals, but only until the going gets too rough or their motivation dwindles. Don’t do that! Commit to making your goals happen, no matter what! Never quit, never contemplate admitting failure, and never lose your inner determination. Just keep moving forward and your persistence will eventually pay off.
2) Don’t get hooked on a specific timeframe for completion. It’s a good idea to set a general timeline, but be aware that some circumstances will be beyond your control. You can never say for sure exactly when your goal will be achieved. If you lock yourself into a very restrictive timeline, you might be setting yourself up to feel like a failure! Instead, get a general idea of when you’d like your goal to be completed, but then take it one day at a time and focus on making progress instead of reaching the finish line in as little time as possible.
3) Finally, be sure that you don’t view obstacles and setbacks as failures. The two are completely different. An obstacle, setback or delay means only one thing: it’s not time for your goal to be completed yet. That’s it! It doesn’t mean you failed; it doesn’t mean you’re weak; it doesn’t mean you’ll never achieve your goals. It simply means you’re not done yet. You’ve got to keep moving forward and find a way over, around, or through the obstacle.
How important is it to keep moving forward? What would you try to accomplish if failure didn’t exist?
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